Two years ago, at another women’s event where I was part of the crowd, the woman MC brought the photographer into the front of the room. It was supposed to be to thank him for his work, but she, and I am not making this up, she commented on how sexy he looked, asked the room to agree with her, and then had the young man turn around so that the whole room of women could get a good look at his body.
I am no prude, and in a small group of friends who know each other well, I can participate in a naughty joke or make an inappropriate comment for the fun of it.
But in a public event, with strangers and a predominance of one gender over the other, it is not appropriate to make those comments. Not to anyone. Regardless of gender, race or any other feature that distinguishes them from the rest of the group.
Women cannot cry foul if they are going to do exactly the same thing the minute the roles are reversed. Fully cognisant of the terrible things that have happened to many, many women over the years, we need to behave better than, not sink to the same standards, that we accuse other people of.
It seems very much to me that if ours had been a powerful, dominant matriarchy instead of a patriarchy, it would be men who would be tagging #MeToo because it seems women don’t always behave better given the chance.